Day 23,676:  Finding the Powerful Women 

Do you remember Fran Drescher from the show The Nanny? She was known for her tight clothes, great figure, big hair and really grating voice.  In my house, we have the Fran Drescher of cats. She’s tiny, keeps her figure and has the most grating Meow ever heard. It drives my  husband nuts.

As she’s gotten older, she’s become more vocal. The husband considers her a nag with a nasty voice. I consider her a Crone who has found her voice.

Yesterday, when she wanted to go out, she meowed stringently.  He commented: “She’s so nasty.”  I rebutted. “No, she’s insistent.”  There’s a difference. She’s a Crone Cat who, at age 15,  knows what she wants, when she wants it and feels entitled to get it. Kudos to her.

Words applied as labels matter in how you interpret what’s going on and how you react to others, even cats, and especially women. Actress Reese Witherspoon announced in 2015  that it was high time women stopped accepting “ambition” as a dirty word. Women are movers and shakers and should not shy away from being courageous, ambitious, capable, bosses, and leaders.

Women in a group are a real force as shown by two years of Pussy Hat marches, but any one woman with a passion can ignite a movement. Consider Candy Lightner, who sat at her kitchen table in 1980 and started Mothers Against Drunk Driving ( They stopped accepting drunk driving as acceptable and created a cultural change still growing today.

The day after the mass school shooting in Parkland, Florida, pundits are again shaking their heads how nothing will be done because Congress and the NRA will not move sane gun legislation forward.  But it struck me that things can change; it will just take women like Cindy to do it.

See Yesterday’s Entry: Thinking With A Mother’s Heart

Listen to Witherspoon’s full speech at the 2015 Glamour Magazine Woman of the Year Gala. It’s a short 6 ½ minutes long and worth the time. She states: “We are in a cultural crisis,” and goes on to note that only 19% of Congress is made up of women. Imagine the legislation and caring laws that would be passed if that percentage grew.

But fights and change are not limited to Congress. Imagine if we organized like Cindy did at her kitchen table to protect our schools and children against this continuing plague of automatic weapons.

Hardball’s Chris Matthews noted last night that what gun lobbies have over everyone else is their sustained focus on one issue all the time whereas the rest of us flit from issue to issue. He might be right. So, I’m now taking a lesson from my insistent and focused Crone Cat. I’m going to commit to keeping what I want front and center and having the courage to demand (not ask) for it. Something must be done, and I just know it will take a woman to do it. I’m going to commit to finding her, supporting her and joining her.